Finding the motivation to stay sober is so damn hard. I will be the first to admit it and I’ve been clean for 5+ years.
Do you know how long it took me to get sober for good?
Or how many years I was an active heroin addict?
Or how bad I fucked up EVERYTHING?!
They Just Don’t Understand
People that have never had an addiction can’t quite grasp how difficult it truly is.
They just think it’s as easy as saying, I’m never going to drink or take drugs again. I’ll go to rehab once and be cured.
Maybe, a night in jail will scare the shit out an addict so, that they will never use again?
The Need To Stay Motivated
In reality, your addiction is always hiding around the corner, trying to beckon you back. If you’ve had a particularly stressful day or something bad has happened in your life, it’d be so easy to just give in. To follow through with that temptation and quickly fall back into old habits.
Those cravings are never going to go away entirely so you always need to be looking for ways to keep yourself motivated.
Finding ways to remind yourself that it’s not worth going back into that life again can be tough. But if your recovery is going to be a success. Then, you need to do it.
Whenever I have a tough day or am stressed af, I know where to find the motivation to stay sober. You need to do the same. FIND YOUR MOTIVATION.
Find The Motivation To Stay Sober
Here are the best ways, you can keep that motivation going.
Think About Your Friends And Family
The loved ones of a person with addiction issues go through a lot.
Think about it. How would you feel watching your child or significant other destroy their life and not be able to do anything to stop it from happening? Short of locking them in a room?
It’s so hard to watch somebody that you care about constantly put themselves in danger and ruin their lives.
You know that addiction will turn you into a completely different person. Getting and using your drugs become your ONLY priority. Which means that relationships with friends and family suffer.
When you’re feeling those cravings and you think that you might give in, it’s easy to have the mindset that makes you want to go back to old habits.
I mean sobriety doesn’t give you instant gratification and the drugs make you feel better then you should just do it.
But wait a damn second.
What you’ve got to remember is that you’re not the only victim of this addiction. If you aren’t willing to avoid the temptation for yourself, do it for the people around you.
When you’re having a hard time and you think that you might be in danger of relapsing, think about the damage it will do to your loved ones. Think about the good relationships that you have with them now.
Now compare that to the bad relationships that you had while you were in the depths of addiction.
Is it really worth pushing those people away again?
Set Financial Goals
Addictions are expensive and usually, the majority of your money goes into funding them. There aren’t many addicts out there that have the money to save for a house, buy a new car or travel regularly.
So now that you’re sober, you’ll probably have a lot more money to spend on things you want. You can use that as a motivator.
You should set yourself financial goals so when you do think about using again, you can stop yourself by thinking about those goals.
It might be that you want to save money for a house or do renovations if you already have one. Maybe you want to upgrade your car or go to a country that you’ve always dreamed of visiting.
Whatever it is, having something better to spend your money on will help you to avoid those cravings and be the motivation to stay sober.
Think about it realistically. If you fall back into getting high, there isn’t a chance in hell that you are going to have money to do anything. You know that.
Having some kind of physical reminder of those goals around the home is a great way to maintain your focus.
For example, if you’re saving up to travel somewhere, buy souvenirs from that country and put them around the house. Every time you see them, you’ll be reminded of why you’re doing this.
If you want a new car, get a small toy version and put it in the house as a reminder. It might sound a bit silly but it really works.
Exercise Does A Body Good
When you take drugs or drink alcohol, your brain releases dopamine which makes you feel good. That’s a bit of a simplification but that’s basically how it works.
Addiction happens when you become reliant on drugs or alcohol to feel good. Which is why you’re more likely to relapse when you’re not doing well.
But if you can find healthy ways to release dopamine and get those positive feelings, it’s a lot easier to stick to your sobriety.
Incorporating exercise into your recovery is one of the best ways to do that.
When you feel like you want to drink or take drugs, go for a run instead. It’ll make you feel good and release a lot of the stress that is causing your cravings in the first place.
Related Reading: Stressed AF? 10 Tips To Manage Stress In Sobriety
The other major benefit of exercise is that it makes you healthier. Addicts tend to be very unhealthy but if you’re in recovery and you’re exercising regularly, you’ll see such a massive improvement and that gives you another reason to stick to it.
Related Reading: 30 Simple Yet Effective Ways To Be Fit + Get Healthy in Sobriety
Find Support From Other Addicts
If you’re trying to get sober on your own, it can feel very isolating.
You can talk to friends and family about it but if they haven’t been through it themselves, they simply can’t relate to the feelings and frustrations that you’re having.
That’s why it’s so important that you find support from other recovering addicts.
That can come in a lot of different forms, not just from groups like Alcoholics or Narcotics anonymous. You would be surprised at just how many people there are that have dealt with some form of addiction in their life.
Groups like Narcotics Anonymous are great for a lot of people but they don’t work for everybody.
If you have no type of sober support in your life, find online forums or blogs like this one. You can always contact me. I talk to and listen to quite a few people in recovery. People just like you. Remember, I’m a recovering addict too.
When you’re part of a network of people that are sober, it helps you to put things in perspective. You’re not the only one that’s struggling and it is possible to make recovery work.
There are tons of people that have overcome similar situations that you are now facing. Talking to someone always helps.
Deal With Setbacks
Sometimes, you might relapse. No matter how hard you try, it happens. The important thing is that you deal with those setbacks properly and move on.
You’ve got two choices when you relapse; you can decide that you’ve messed it all up and you might as well just give up on sobriety. Or you can accept that it’s happened and try to start fresh the next day.
It’s important to remember that you’ve still been sober for a long time and one slip up doesn’t undo all of that hard work.
You’re still in a much better place than you were.
The Best Motivation To Stay Sober
Now, I am going to give you an essential tool to build the sober life you want.
You NEED to have a sober vision. A clear vision of your future in order to continue sober living successfully. It is
Having A Sober Vision
After all, if you have no idea what you want or what you are working towards, then how do you know what to do?
Having a go with the flow, live by the moment lifestyle does not give you a sense of purpose, goals to reach, or a reason to maintain your sobriety. This is because you feel like you are going nowhere and accomplishing nothing.
In my opinion, having a sober vision is the best motivation you can have to live a successful life. Let me explain why.
Here is your call to action to finding the
motivation to stay sober.
You need to create your own sober vision. Physically write it down. Not type it out but write it down.
It is a proven fact that a person is over 50% more likely to successfully take action in achieving their goals if they write it down.
When you have a solid future vision then you cover all the bases. Including health (exercise), relationships (family, sober support), setting goals, finances, etc. Basically, everything we just covered and more.
If you don’t have a future vision for your sober life then, download the Sober Vision Workbook below. It will guide you through the entire process so you can create a clear, focused sober vision.
Dealing with addiction is a lifelong battle but if you can find ways to keep yourself motivated, you can stay sober and live the life that you really want.
Create a kick-ass sober life and you will always have
Before you go, don’t forget to download the Sober Vision Workbook.
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