How do you break a bad habit that’s out of control?
Let’s use drug addiction as an example since that was the root of ALL of my problems. I was able to stop getting high so, breaking other bad habits should be a piece of cake.
Quitting my addiction took many years. A lot of trial and error. Until I finally found that magical remedy or however you want to put it.
So, the question is… How do I stop (my bad habit)?
Here’s how to break a bad habit that is ruining your life. It seriously works. Here is what to do,
People make the assumption that quitting any bad habit is going to be easy as hell. We know that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Often times, we switch or replace our drug addiction with a new, seemingly less harmful addiction. Some people become chain smokers, others take up gambling or shopping addictions. Other people end up with a food addiction or play out their desires and frustration with sex or pornography addictions.
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Sound silly? Well, it couldn’t be further from the truth.
Smokers who quit take up another bad habit. REPLACING a bad habit with another bad habit is NOT QUITTING. Being able to break a bad habit is not that easy.
So, I devised a plan. A strategy that WILL WORK if you stick to it.
Let’s cut to the chase and discuss how to break a bad habit before it destroys your life. That is one thing that we should have learned from our previous addiction. If you know it’s bad then nothing good is going to come out of it.
So, why do we keep doing it if we know it’s bad? Is it the thrill of doing something inappropriate, a lack of willpower, a lapse of judgment, or that our brain is rewired from using drugs all these years?
Steps To Break A Bad Habit
This seems like a no-brainer and usually, it is but, there’s more to it. There is a reason why we perform this habit constantly.
If it’s smoking, why do you smoke? Nail biting, why chew on your nails? There is always a reason why we do the things we do. Find your underlying cause.
My bad habit is smoking cigarettes. So, why do I do it? Well, I’m addicted, yeah. But why do I smoke? I smoke because it’s a coping mechanism for me. It calms me down, makes me feel better, I look cool (lmao), and now I am physically and mentally addicted to nicotine.
One of my all-time favorite things is to have a cigarette in the morning with my first cup of coffee.
That is the hardest time for me. Every time I say that I’m going to quit. As soon as I take a sip of that first cup of coffee, I need to smoke. I feel that I need a cigarette with my coffee.
What do I do to break a bad habit then? This particular bad habit? The smoking with my first cup of coffee. (See – I identified the first problem that happens every single day).
I have to find a way to cope. In other words, I must find other things to do while drinking my morning coffee instead of smoking.
So, I make a list.
A mental list or physical list. I prefer physical because thoughts seem to register better when you put them into words and write them down to see again and again and again.
- Write in a daily journal while drinking morning coffee
- If you smoke outside, do NOT go outside while having your first coffee.
- Try drinking tea instead of coffee. (A cigarette don’t tase the same with tea, it sucks)
- Read the newspaper instead
- Or check your email
- Make a to-do list for the day while sipping on your cup of joe
- Make it a self-care moment where you meditate while sipping on coffee or tea
- Walk around the house while drinking coffee to water plants, feed animals, get ready for the day.
- Read a daily scripture or inspirational message
- Watch the news while drinking your coffee
- If you smoke and drink coffee in a set location every day, don’t drink your coffee there anymore
Ok, you see the point? You have to change the normal routine so, you are not triggered as much to perform your daily bad habit.
2. Research, Expand Your Mind
Right now, you are obviously on the internet so, I can see you spend some quality time here. Start researching your bad habit on the computer and find the worse case scenarios, horrifying images, and deadly information. Print it out if you have to. If you really have to then post a graphic picture in every room of your home so it stays in your mind. Then do it. If you really want to break a bad habit then you will do what it takes.
This is what I mean:
If your bad habit is smoking, research how smoking hurts you.
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If your bad habit is overeating.
You need to research healthy ways to lose weight. Look at pictures of morbidly obese people and how bad they suffer, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Find out how hard it will be for you to lose weight, or get married, or do normal activities. Research all the health problems associated with overeating. Keep going and going.
If you have a sex addiction.
Chances are if you are married then you are not being faithful unless your significant other is a nympho. Think about your partner leaving you. Or look at all the sexually transmitted diseases you can get. Find out how HIV will kill you. Imagine if someone you loved was a sex addict and didn’t care about you. You know any addict only think about themselves.
Think about what this is doing to your life.
Do you have to pay prostitutes to fulfill your desires? Think about it like this. If you cheat on your husband or wife and have sex with 3 other people. Each of those 3 people is tricking and slept with 5 people that day then you are actually having sex with all of those people and it just increases your chances of catching diseases. It’s a downhill battle.
Now, you understand what I mean by research.
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In order to break a bad habit, you must first understand the full extent of it and where it could lead you if you aren’t already there.
Once again, if you know something is bad for you then you shouldn’t be doing it. So you have to come to terms with the final outcome if you do not break the bad habit now.
3. Be The Man with A Plan
Create a plan of action. If you want to break a bad habit then, you have to prepare yourself. It’s not something that allows you to just go with the flow. You need a plan. A clearly defined plan of action.
Quitting any bad habit cold turkey usually doesn’t work out. If you realize you have to break a bad habit then I’m pretty sure you have tried stopping previously. Most likely, cold turkey. If you are reading this right now then chances are you didn’t succeed in stopping cold turkey, did you?
So now to answer the question your thinking, how do you make a plan?
Breaking It Down
Break your plan of action down into sections. Be as specific and detailed as possible. Smaller goals that are extremely simple will be much easier to successfully finish. Therefore, if you put a bunch of small goals together, the end result is now achievable.
- Set a start date.
- Set an end date. Typically 30, 60, or 90 days.
- Set small goals to achieve the ultimate goal of breaking the habit. Plus set completion dates for each of those small goals.
- Actually, stick to the plan. Don’t give up. Keep pushing forward.
- Remember that it is important to pay attention to small detail and be extremely specific.
4. Reinforcements or Accountability Partner
While some people believe that rewards are beneficial for each small goal that you complete. I say that’s complete bullshit. You’re not a kid. You don’t need a star or cookie for going potty on the big boy toilet.
In my eyes, the reward is being able to break a bad habit.
A bad habit is a type of addiction if you think about. We have been addicts long enough. We don’t need anything else to put us back in the addiction category. Am I right?
Punishments? Umm. I’m not too keen on that either. I mean come on. If you are trying to lose weight and stop overeating and you indulge in a pint of ice cream instead of a bowl, starving yourself for 2 days isn’t really beneficial to your health either. Therefore, I think that punishments for screwing up aren’t a good idea either.
You can have an accountability partner.
If you and a friend both want to end the same bad habit then that is awesome. By all means, go for it.
Personally, depending on what the habit is – you might be more comfortable doing it alone. Yet, having someone to support you, encourage you, and inspire you is always a good thing. As long as you both work together in executing the plan of action and don’t bring each other down or encourage each other to fuck up.
Make sure it is somebody who has their mind set on completing the mission. Seriously, no joke.
Two people with the same negative mindset are not going to pull each other up. You have to be 100% sure that both of you are ALL into making this work!
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5. Focus On Breaking One Bad Habit At A Time
Please, don’t try to do it all at once.
Don’t go on a diet, quit smoking, start exercising, go back to school, pick up a new hobby, start a family, and change careers all in the same week. Yet, alone the same day!
Plain and simple, one thing at a time. I repeat, only make or break one habit at a time. I repeat one at a time. For example, don’t try to form new habits at the same time you are breaking bad ones.
Call To Action
Are you ready to put this plan into effect?
I bet you are probably thinking, “I’ll wait until the New Year and then I will do it”. No, don’t wait. Do it now. Start the year off by making new habits.
Habits that are healthy. Habits that will help you to move forward.
There is no better time than the beginning of the year to start living your life right. To do that, you need to eliminate your bad habits now because they are doing nothing but bringing you down.