Have you ever questioned if you’re a supermom? When a woman thinks about the word supermom, what comes to mind? Definitely, not an average looking mother in a pair of yoga pants and her hair in a messy bun typing hastily on her laptop trying to get work done. Meanwhile, her kids are screaming. Her daughter’s yelling that her brother pulled her hair. Yet, this mom does it.
This mom gets her job done, feeds the kids, makes sure their homework is done, cleans the house, and puts them to bed. She gets the coffee ready for the morning so she can do it all again. Before she goes to bed, she stands in her kids’ doorway watching them sleep like little angels. She is grateful that she has this. She knows she will miss these moments when they’re older. She then falls asleep beside her husband who is fast asleep after a long day’s works. Now, that is a supermom.
Are you a supermom?
When someone says supermom, an image pops into your head. A high heel wearing, pearl necklace, perfect makeup, not a hair out of place, June Cleaver look-alike. Well, guess what? That’s not a supermom in my book. That’s a fake ass woman hiding behind something.
Let me tell you a story.
When I was in early recovery, I knew a woman. A single mother with three kids. She was a stay at home mom. She ran around all day chasing after a toddler who ran her world. Yet, she seemed to have it all together. Her bills were paid, her kids had everything they wanted, and she seemed happy.
What wasn’t shown was this woman’s secrets. She was so stressed out that she was prescribed Xanax. She smoked a few joints throughout the day to be able to cope. Yet, she also popped pain pills all day just to make it through. She whined to everyone about being broke so people actually just gave her money. A master manipulator.
Myself being a heroin addict in early recovery knew what would end up happening. She did the same shit I did to get money for her drugs. The only difference was that she was able to uphold a supermom image. Hell, I gave up the public image years beforehand. I didn’t care who knew what I was all about. Trying to hide my use was let go years and years ago.
Is it alright for a supermom to use drugs to cope?
The point is that our views on what a supermom encompasses are wrong. Especially, because people hide behind images to appear better to others than they actually are.
A mother who must drink or take pills or smoke weed to deal with her life is not a supermom. She’s a hypocrite. Simply, pretending to be something that she is not.
Here is what I believe a supermom is. To be more exact, a sober supermom.
She is you.
She is me.
She is the girl down the street who was on dope and is now clean with twins.
She is the grandmother who drank for 30 years who stopped and raised her grandchildren.
She is the substance abuse counselor who is a recovering addict trying to help others.
She is any woman who has a career, a home, and someone to look after and care for.
She is a woman who doesn’t need to drink to handle her family.
Don’t forget, she has faced addiction herself and beat it.
She does it all.
Because she is a sober supermom.
If you go to dictionary.com and look up these three words. Here are the definitions you will find.
1. A woman or mother who must care and look after others (ideally her children yet, it can pertain to other situations). She must manage and take care of her home and all living things and possessions in it. While successfully completing those tasks, she also manages her career either out of the home or working at home. Plus, managing all the other ins and outs of motherhood, parenting, being a homemaker, a successful businesswoman, a mompreneur, etc. All the while, not taking one drink or drug. This is a woman who does it all and does it all sober. 100% of the time.
There are other words or definitions you can use to describe a sober supermom but, here is my honest opinion. This isn’t all about me, it’s about ALL mothers who have kept on despite what society, family, and so-called friends said about them. It’s the mom who loves their children beyond words and doesn’t give a damn about anybody but them. Including themselves or their image.
This is a supermom.
A mother who took her life from one extreme to the next.
A woman who cared about herself and only herself for so many years that it was hard to imagine loving someone else so indefinitely that you would drop dead in an instant to save that person from any harm.
A woman who did what she wanted for so damn long, it’s hard for others to imagine her putting others before herself without a second thought.
A complete and total boss.
A woman who is not only at the top of her game in her career, but also at motherhood, at parenting, and every other aspect in her life.
A woman who won’t take no for an answer and will succeed at all that she does. She will give her children the best life possible because that is what a loving mother does.
A woman who shook death’s hand hundreds of times and is still living and breathing.
A woman who has faced the depths of hell and made it back.
A woman who has seen pure and true evil. She knows how cold the world really is and will now guard her family against the horrors that she has witnessed.
She is not your average mother. She has seen and done things that people only read about.
She fought for everything she has and for the people in her life.
And there is NO chance that she will let anyone take away anything from her again, disgrace her, disrespect her, corrupt her, or own her.
She is a beast. A loving mother, the ideal homemaker, a boss, mompreneur, a career girl, a powerful individual, a recovering addict and so much more than words will ever describe.
She is a sober supermom.
I am a sober supermom.
You are a sober supermom.
You know what you have done and you know what you can do. You have earned your happiness more than you’ll ever know.
You are it. You are the hero that people thought didn’t exist. The real superhero that children need. Share your story. Tell your miracle.