People are so quick to talk about how great recovery is and don’t get me wrong, it is fucking awesome but what about the cons of recovery?
No one tells you that. They forget to mention the shitty side of sobriety because there is a shitty side.
I am not talking about early sobriety, the withdrawals, the pain, the night sweats, the vomiting, and wishing you would die. Yeah – that part sucks but, we deal with it and move on.
The stuff that I’m talking about stems from the wreckage of the past. The moments that will make you want to stab your eyeballs out or beat your head off a wall until you can’t remember anymore. Yes, it is that damn serious. 😔Sobriety is badass. Life is so much better being sober. But what about the cons of recovery? How do you deal with the shitty side of being sober? There's a shitty side? Yes. Read on. #addictionrecovery #consofrecovery #sobriety #recoveringaddict… Click To Tweet
The Top 9 CONS OF RECOVERY
It is time to stop pretending that we don’t feel a certain type of way about our past. Addiction has beat most of us down to the ground. That’s a little hard to forget.
Don’t you agree?
This is the stuff that no one likes to discuss. It’s the stuff that we are going to talk about right now.
1. The Stuff You Would Rather Forget
You think about all the nasty, messed up shit that you have done throughout your addiction. It’s that shit you refuse to talk about. Those images in your head that you wish would go away.
The thing is that now you are sober, you can’t numb the pain anymore.
Those thoughts that you try to push back. The feelings that you hate.
That shit is real and you can’t undo it. Even though you wish you could.
2. Uhh! Your Appearance
In addiction, you were thin as hell and thought you were drop dead gorgeous. Maybe you were.
Now, I’m not saying you are not beautiful now. Of course, you are but be honest, your looks have changed.
Now, you actually eat. Maybe a little too much. You put on weight, you aren’t running the streets 24/7, and the drugs and drinking do catch up with ya.
All this being said, you might not like the way you look. I sure don’t like how I look. I put on weight and didn’t exercise. So, I had to fix that and I am happy with the way things are going.
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3. Insane In The Brain
Most recovering addicts have underlying issues that must be dealt with. When using, you were self-medicating. Now, you’re not.
Either get on the meds you need or learn how to cope in a healthy way. You don’t want to go off the deep end now that are are getting your shit together.
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4. Got Friends?
You burnt your bridges and lost your childhood friends and any good friend you had. Hell, your grandma still doesn’t trust you.
The longer you are in recovery, the more you begin to realize that those addicts who you thought would be there forever are long gone. Seriously, did you really think that your actual partner in crime would be around forever?
Face it, you don’t have many friends. In fact, you don’t have a single true friend.
If you aren’t in a 12 step program with a sponsor, homegroup, and meeting people in the rooms, you begin to feel quite lonely.
Don’t worry, the friendships will come and they will be meaningful, caring relationships. Not people to get high with.
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5. You Suck!
To piggyback off of number 4, let’s talk about the relationship with your significant other. If you were together during addiction and are now clean together, you may begin to realize that your relationship isn’t as glamorous as you once thought it was. The former Bonnie and Clyde who has now gone straight really have nothing in common. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
Do you want to be miserable forever or is it time to say goodbye?
Sometimes it is better to let go and move on than to stay and try to make it work. Especially when in your heart, you know it’s over.
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6. Part of the System
Let’s get real. You caused some serious damage doing drugs. Now the government is involved in your family life, your ex wants full custody of the kids, and you have to fight for your OWN children. That shit sucks but, don’t give up. Your children need you, don’t ever let them go.
You may have made mistakes but you are different now so, prove it. That’s what people want. They want proof. So give it to them.
7. Career Goals
You love helping people and want to be a nurse. Oh but what about those possession and paraphernalia charges you have? Being a convicted felon or having any type of criminal record can put a major dent in your career plans.
So, now wtf are you going to do?
You have to access the situation and adjust your career goals accordingly. You can still be a badass success. Trust me, I know. I am telling you this from experience.
Besides, you have changed as a person. Your goals probably arent’s the same as they used to be.
No, you aren’t going to be a doctor or FBI agent but you can be a recovery coach, best selling author, or entrepreneur.
Don’t limit your self due to past mistakes. Adjust your plans to meet your current needs.
8. Financial Worries
Let me say this. When I first got clean, my credit score was so damn low that it wouldn’t even register. When I finally found out what it was, I couldn’t even believe it.
I didn’t know a credit score could be that low. Seriously, it was below 300. Insanely bad credit.
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9. I Got Issues
Don’t we all? But what I’m talking about is a little different.
Personally, I have trust issues now. Big time. Addicts are only out for themselves but, I feel that EVERYONE is out for their own personal gain. No one does anything out of the kindness of their heart. They do it to benefit themselves in some way, shape, or form.
Seriously, think about it.
Even if your boyfriend buys you the best gift in the world and he does not expect anything in return. He’s still doing it because it makes him feel good. That’s still a self-benefit and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
After being used and abused and being the one who used and abused, you may feel as if you are constantly looking over your shoulder. You don’t trust anyone. Someone does something nice for you, you can’t help but wonder what they want in return. It’s a hard mindset to break out of.
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Facing The Shitty Side of Sobriety
Life has its’ ups and downs. That is not going to change simply because you got clean. It doesn’t matter if you have been clean for 20 years. That does not erase what you did 20 years ago. The wreckage of the past will show it’s ugly head and bite you in the ass at least once or twice in your lifetime and I mean at the very least.
What you got going for you now is that you don’t have to make the issue worse than it already is. Now, you can cope with the feelings, the person, the situation, or whatever it is. You cope with it in a healthy way. In a way that is going to make it better, not worse.
You can handle your business like the badass you are. You can and you will.